In my recent reading, I’ve encountered this idea:
Emotions, when we notice and allow them without rejecting or clinging, tend to dissipate pretty quickly. On their own, that’s what they do. The thing that usually keeps emotional responses going is the stories we tell ourselves about them, the ways we either rush to gather supporting evidence that will justify/reinforce them or start judging ourselves harshly for having experienced them in the first place.
Either way, we’re feeding into the emotion.
Contrary to the idea of people needing to routinely “discharge” their anger, for example, there’s evidence that people who indulge in and act out their anger only tend to become angrier. Because discharging anger by acting it out – indulging in “getting angry” – doesn’t actually deal with the underlying feeling.
This idea of emotions as habits we can change the way we relate to interests me.
So, naturally, it worked its way into a song.